My parents did very well with the girls last weekend. They had them three nights. The first night was at my house then they went to their house. Overall, they did pretty well. My mother loves to "give in" to the kids. However, they know that we can't allow the boundaries to be very relaxed for the girls right now. She let them have loose boundaries and the testing started. My dad didn't let the big things slip. Nothing major happened, but the stories from my parents were pretty funny. The girls were trying to see if the rules apply with them as they do with us. My dad was quick to tell them the same rules applied.
I thought it had been long enough to leave the girls with my parents for three nights. I will never forget the look on Hannah's face when we arrived at my parents house to pick them up. I can't even describe the look to you. It wasn't a happy look. What the look meant, I believe, is that she isn't as attached as I thought. She didn't really care that we were back, it appeared. We definitely took some steps backwards after the separation. The first few days of the week were difficult, but we both survived. I think she it getting back to her normal now. I wonder if that will ever change? Haylee was glad to see us.
It has been a difficult week. We had a lot going on and I am staying so exhausted. Morgan is having stomach troubles again. This is very troubling to me.
The t*wins have an appt next week with the endocrinologist and Morgan has an appt with the pediatric gastro doctor. It will be another busy week.
The times my in-laws have watched my children we go through the same, "have to start over." When my son particularly comes home to us. As he is only 2, he has so much baggage of emotions that cause him to have attachment issues. He knows us and loves us (his parents) but we as you and your husband have, we too have set rules and boundaries. My In-laws NEVER follow the boundaries we set for our son unless he gets so out of control then they discipline him. But he will literally throw a BAD temper tantrum and they will pick him up and cuddle him. ehhh NOT! Then when he comes home to us he has to learn the hard way he is not cuddled for doing something we told him not to or bad bad tantrums! We have talked and talked to them about it but it never changes. So now when he sees them he automatically starts pouting and gets worked into a tantrum because he knows they will cuddle him. The only solution that actually works is just simply not calling on them to watch him. He does SO much better when he gets our consistency. And we get compliments by other people that we have such well behaved children. So I can sympathize with you and what you are going through in a sense. I hope your week fly's by like a breeze for you!
ReplyDeleteDid they "pay you back" with their behavior when they got home? (-; Glad things went well!
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We regress too! And we've had ours since he was 8 months old! Attachment is tricky. Maybe a one on one activity for each child over the weekend?
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