We have decided to let Morgan go to camp this summer with a friend for 12 days. What will I do?? I won't be able to tuck her in for 11 nights?? I will miss her so much!! She is going with a sweet friend that we have known for years. She is thrilled!! She has wanted to go for two years now. It has always interfered with our annual beach trip that is scheduled around my husbands annual professional meeting. This year it also conflicted with her dance recital. She has continued to pray for a way for it to happen. I just knew it wouldn't.
But God...
He has moved the mountains for Morgan!!
The dance recital was moved one week earlier and the beach meeting has been moved a week later. After much prayer and consideration, we have decided to let her attend. It is not cheap at all, but we feel she derserves this time away without her sisters.
We asked her what she was willing to help pay to go and she said all of her savings. Well, we aren't going to make her do that, but this will be her birthday present which is at the end of the month. She was thrilled!! I had already purchased her a camera, which is all she wanted. My parents will give her that for her birthday.
My husband and I have been trying to figure out what we could do special to honor her because she has learned to share almost EVERYTHING in the last nine months. She has never expected anything in return. We are so proud of her! This adoption has been the hardest on her. She has overcome!! We still have very difficult days, but she is doing well.
The problem...
How do we handle this with the other girls? They are going to want to go next year. One problem...the cost. Also, I don't know that they will be able to go away that long without me for a long time. How do I explain that to them? Suggestions?
Is it bad that we are letting her go and they may never get to go?
This will be a good time for them to learn to play without Morgan. When she isn't around now, they don't know what to do.
I feel like we are doing the right thing, but I do worry about the other girls. I can't make Morgan miss out because they may never be able to attend alone, can I ?
Morgan will have SO much fun! What a lucky girl! The other 2 girls will have hurt feelings, but this will be a lesson on life...not everything is fair. Just because they are also 9 years old, doesn't mean they can do everything Morgan does. And in the same sense, Hannah and Haylee may be able to do things Morgan doesn't get to do.
ReplyDeletePray your heart out and ask Heavenly Father for guidance. He will help you help your other two daughters with this choice you have made.
MrsKish, yes, Haylee and Hannah will get to do special things while she is gone. She will have to accept not doing those things. Eventhough their ages are the same, maturity isn't.
ReplyDeleteI regularly tell my girls life isn't fair and that is why we have no fairies in the house. It is a lesson that all need to know and you would be surprised at the number of adults who haven't figured it out yet.
ReplyDeleteEvery child is different. period. You do what is best for each one of your children and if one day one of the twins is ready to go to camp and the other is not then that one twin should get to go. That's life. It is hard. But you are a good mom and that is what good mom's do. They meet their children where they are.
ReplyDeleteSo excited for Morgan.
Decisions for each child need to be made independently based on that child. Life is not fair; it is good for children to learn that lesson early. Hopefully something will come up that is special for H & H.
ReplyDeleteYou could also tell H & H that this could be some special time with you, E & the boys but their attitude in accepting M going to camp & them staying home matters in how this time is spent. Be happy for what they have and not want what they don't have. Make sense? For my kids I try to tell them they are each different and sometimes they do get treated differently depending on the circumstance but the love is the same across the board and their attitudes can make or change everything. Keep praying!
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