Hannah is struggling with no structure and the holidays. She has a very short temper and gets mad over anything. I am trying to stop the eruptions before they happen. We are hanging in there...
I stuggle not losing it with her also. I get frustrated with myself during these times because I don't like what I feel and think at times...
I know this sounds crazy, but it is almost a relief to read about other adopted older children that struggle around the holidays and with little structure. It is exhausting. I find myself listening to prepare for the next issue to arise.
Hannah did create a few movements to go with the song, "I Can Only Imagine" I think that is the name. It is a great song. I think eventually music will really help in healing.
I have enjoyed not having to teach the kids this week, but in some ways I am ready to start back. Tucker, Alex and Morgan love the break. Hannah and Haylee aren't quite sure what to do. I guess time will take care of that.
I offered to make cookies with them, no interest. I offered to make their Christmas tree ornaments, no interest. Tonight I will just say, "We are doing this now."
They are going to swim team in a few minutes so they will have some structure. My mother in law will be here tomorrow. I am sure she will do some fun things with them. The boys are going hunting with my husband and my father in law.
It is very frustrating I know. My two year old has visits for a few hours once a week hopefully not too much longer...well they both do. But my two year old has major attachment issues. He doesn't want them he wants us and he just doesn't understand why he has to be with them. Then when he gets home he acts out for a least a few days to follow. Its like everything we have taught him or have instilled in him has to be taught all over again. As he gets older I've noticed his sharing (which we got a handle on) has gotten worse and he has pushed a few kids down. he is in day care so I am sure some of this contributes. But my goodness he is a MESS for those few days to follow. Its like a weekly roller coaster of normal to high to normal again! Try to hang in there my prayers are with you and your family as you work through these things!!
ReplyDeleteMeredith
hi Jenny!
ReplyDeleteI understand your frustrations. We have a 3-yr-old that we received at 8 months and he has issues! It is so difficult not to lose it! We are in counseling to help him and us. One of the things we were taught is to tell them that you are getting really upset and are about to lose it with them. Since they don't know boundaries, you are warning them that they are about to cross the line.
I will pray for you & you pray for me!