Can we have one school morning where we don't have tears? It has started everyday lately. I am mentally worn out by mid-morning some days. Hannah cries about something...school, made poor choices and was corrected, I could keep naming reasons, EVERYDAY. It is never a surprise anymore. The tears get no sympathy from anyone. I guess this is her form of rage. I am afraid one day she is going to explode.
Hannah is testing everything. It is like we are having to relearn rules again. She is asking questions that she knows the answer. I guess she is trying to see if our answer will change. All of us tend to selfishness, but these girls have it much worse. They are having a hard time remembering that they don't do things just because they want to.
Haylee was told to come in and set the table tonight. She didn't come in and I went out to get her. I asked her why she didn't come in and she shrugged her shoulders and said, "I don't know." That doesn't fly around here. She heard when she was told. She chose not to come in because she wanted to play. Well, guess what, she is already in the bed.
Hannah was asked to not play the piano while Haylee was testing. Guess what? She did it anyway, because she wanted too. Ugh...
These are just two of the many examples of what we deal with. The blessing is they do not rage. They can have little fits, but no raging.
Haylee doesn't lie often. Hannah will if she isn't careful. Her instinct is to say whatever she needs to say to stay out of trouble. For example, saying she didn't know why she looked at the answer key to the worksheet she was doing. She said she didn't know why she looked. She changed her story three times and never said she was looking for an answer.
What? Do they get it?
We move in good and bad cycles around here. We are in a not so good cycle around here now.
It amazes me that some things take so long to sink in, that the children will consistently choose misery over happiness. We have shown and taught and followed through with our word and yet, they will go through stages where it's as if they never learned a thing.
ReplyDeleteAnd the next thing you know.... they are in another stage where they show us they do learn.
I believe we have a few more years of the up and down cycles. Hang in there. God is faithful and will continue to work with our families.
The cycles are so hard because it lets you know they do know what to do and just choose not to at times. Hang in there....it's all we can do. :)
ReplyDeleteIf they would only realize that they are so much happier when they aren't constantly in trouble. But as I just typed that I realized they just want control and when do they have more control...when they disobey. They control themselves and us as we are having to discipline and watch them constantly. UGH There are no easy answers.
Enjoy the good times and hope and pray the bad times get shorter and shorter.