The girls have been invited to a birthday party tomorrow. Actually, all three girls were invited, but Morgan is still at camp. I would feel much better about leaving them if Morgan was there. The girls are doing so much better and have come so far in almost 14 months, but they still have issues. I am not sure they will ever "get" some things.
Things still happen that frustrate me so much. I am not going to detail them because others would probably so I am being petty. However, even a four year old would know better. Social settings we have been in quite a few times and can't remember how to behave. We struggle remembering our boundaries regarding hugging and touching people.
They struggle with friendships. For this birthday tomorrow, I was talking with the girls about not hanging all over the other girls. They can't grasp my problem with their actions. They struggle with the fact a hug must be wanted by both people. We don't hang all over our friends. Hannah mentioned she would sit with the birthday girl in the car tomorrow. I had to explain that there will be 12 friends of this person at the party tomorrow. Some of them are much closer to this person than Hannah. Hannah thought she would be her buddy tomorrow. I had to explain that may not be the case. They are doing a scavenger hunt downtown. I am nervous about it. The mother doesn't want me to go, but I might. I will just have to evaluate the situation in the morning when I drop them off. I am happy they were invited and I want them to go. I am just really anxious about the party. If we have struggles in the morning, we may not go. My friends always tell me they do well for them, maybe I am too strict. No, I am not. I have to be in my world or all will fall apart.
Anyway, enough of that...I will let you know how things go.
We are headed to my parents tomorrow for the remainder of the week. Well, the twins and Alex will be with me. Morgan is at camp and my husband and Tucker are going to a Father/Son retreat in Texas this weekend. We will pick up Morgan Saturday and return home. We will pack Sunday and leave for our annual beach trip Monday.
It is a very busy month for us.
Just a lurker here. Our daughter went to a "Mall Scavenger Hunt" birthday party at age 15 or 16. She was barely appropriate. I certainly would encourage you Not to concern yourself with what other parents think when making this decision. Not sure how H&H get along with each other (when with others) but that may also be a big factor. Some sibs will get along better and others will absolutely try to triangulate/sabotage each other due to their anxiety. The whole deal sounds Very unsupervised to me. -- another A-Mom.
ReplyDeleteFollow your instincts...God gave them to you! As my dear husband continually reminds me, it's years of ingrained habit & behavior we're working to undo, and that's going to take a loooong time. So be patient, brave, and keep close to God. A loosey-goosey scavanger hunt downtown scares me...do what you need to do to take care of your kids!
ReplyDeleteSo, if the lady doesn't want you to go, will she be available to hold the hands of your twins at all times in this downtown scavenger hunt? Sounds a little scary to me . . . People have no idea the level of supervision our children need. Go with your gut.
ReplyDeleteMissed this post some how but would love to hear how things went. Can't even imagine my two ever being able to participate in something like this. Hope things went well.
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