As many of my blog friends have stated, with adopted children, it seems that only one of mine can "do well" at a time.
Hannah is usually my problem. Well, she has behaved pretty well and followed the rules the last few days. She has done well with her small amount of school work as well.
Haylee hasn't done well. She can't keep her hands to herself. She won't listen. She won't answer us when we ask a question. She just stares or looks at the ground. When we pull her chin up to look at us, she looks back down. She usually isn't in trouble until she starts not answering us.
We had to drive an hour in the car this morning for a doctor appt for the twins. The girls were all told to take their small amount of school with them. We start driving and I notice Haylee isn't working. I ask her why and she says she gets sick in the car. She hasn't ever gotten sick in the car with us. Hannah has, but not Haylee. So, she only brought one of her books. She had to finish her when we got home while everyone else played.
After completing her school, she wanted Hannah to play with her. They were in their room. I kept hearing Haylee yell at Hannah. After I heard a foot stomp, I intervened. Hannah was trying to control the situation by saying she didn't remember the "game" Haylee wanted to play. Haylee was frustrated and yelling at her. Haylee is now resting in her bed. I will not tolerate them acting in their "games" in ways they shouldn't act to anyone. I really don't like the "games" they play.
I am sure, since Morgan isn't home, Hannah was trying to control the situation. Well, it backfired. They aren't playing.
It may be a long 11 days while Morgan is at camp!
They may be having rest time while Morgan is gone. I try to have quiet reading time in the summer anyway. It doesn't always happen. It seems like we are always headed somewhere with a child for an appt or something.
I wonder if Haylee's medicine is helping control some other issues other than ADHD. I wonder if it is helping stabilize her emotions. We may not make it all summer without her meds. Any opinions from other Mom's of children that have suffered abuse and neglect? Children with FAE?
GB is is FAE, besides ASD and Bipolar. Once we have her stable, the only reason we change medication is for side effects too severe to ignore.
ReplyDeletei think that taking "our" kids on off meds is often not a good plan, it creates to much chaos in their little worlds and there are many drs who not longer take kids off ADHD meds in the summer anymore. We have the sme issues here, one is good the other is a challenge and the "games" that they fight about are really starting to grate on my last nerve.
ReplyDeleteI too was told not to take jackson of his meds in the summer. We are actually going to try a new stronger Med this summer and see if we can get him stablized. My Dr.said if a child truly needs ADHD meds they need them all the time not just for school. Also, there are many many symptoms beyond just attention problems.
ReplyDeleteI love your blog! I found it a little while ago. We have an 11 yr old bio daughter with adhd and sensory processing issues (high IQ and an emotional age about 3 yrs Ahead of her actualy age.) The meds DEFINATELY help regulate the emotions too!! We can tell the difference even just at the end of the day. Liv was having an acting out/anxiety problem every single morning for several months..not wanting to go to school..we added a very small dose of an anti-depressant to address the anxiety and it has helped unbelievably. Our dr. said early on that we would eventually move toward anxiety and ocd issues as she gets older and we are starting to see that the closer she gets to puberty. Hang in there! Around here we say that Liv is going to be the president of the USA or at least her own company ...hopefully we will live to see it!! HA!! Sheri
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