Control

I believe we are reaching a new phase in the adoption cycle.  It has been here a while, but it is becoming more and more apparent.  My husband and I talked about it today and agree that we are having control issues with the girls.  They are both trying to control us, me mostly, in different ways. 

We had a horrible start to the day today.  I won't go into details, but we have a rule in our family that no matter what time you get up, you must be finished at the breakfast table by 7:45 so you will be ready for school by 8:00.  If you get up late, you have less time for breakfast.  They are suppose to get up at 7 am.  This system has worked pretty well this year with most of the kids. 

Haylee is usually a problem.  This morning was horrible.  She sat and was basically was silently refusing to eat.  She knows that she must eat because once she takes her medicine she really will not feel like eating. She sat and wasn't eating.  I kept asking her why.  Anyway, I won't go into the details.  She was mad about what she was eating and the amount.  Instead of eating what she wanted of her cereal, she sat and pouted.  I was in and out of the kitchen.  Finally, my husband told her he was tired of this and she better be done before he leaves in 5 minutes.  AMAZING, she ate most of her cereal and drank her glass of milk.  I was not happy.  She ate everything in less than five minutes after sitting there pouting for 30 minutes.  Needless to say, I was not a happy Momma this morning. 

Later in the morning, Hannah was trying to telling me that I was adding some of the mental math problems wrong.  She kept saying the wrong answer and I quietly told her it wasn't correct.  Haylee was still trying to calculate the answer.  She got mad and basically told me I was wrong.  Well, once again, she won because I wasn't to happy about her telling me I was wrong about the answer.   

I think these are both ways of them controlling or feeling as they are in control.  What do you think?  Other things are happening, these are just two examples from today.  We are going to be on the lookout for other instances in the next few days. 

We are going to my parents lake house this weekend.  I am a little uneasy that we are going with these issues going on. My parents are very supportive and us and the girls.  I think things will be okay.