Anger

We are dealing with anger around here.  We are trying to find healthy ways for Hannah to release her anger. 

I have talked to a counselor we met with prior to finalization and she suggested a few things.  She is going to visit our home in early December and meet with each girl alone.  This is definitely a new season for all of us.  I am remaining calm and trying to love her through her anger.  After we discuss the issue, I reassure her that she is safe and secure in our family.  She will not be moved again.  She is in our family forever.  We will love her no matter what she does.  She can't make us stop loving her and being her parents.  Sometimes this will bring tears to her eyes and sometimes you can see her body relax.  I have to remain focused for this to be successful.  She is going to have to stay close to me again for awhile.  I need this to keep a watchful eye on her and I think she needs this for security.

I have wondered today is she if "fake" to me and her "real" self when I am not around.  She knows what not to do in front of me, but does it when I leave the room.  This is becoming more and more common. 

Her anger is becoming the bottom line for problems lately.  She gets mad and doesn't even care about the consequences.  Her cause and effect struggles also come into play at this point also. 

I am praying that God will heal her hurt places.