I went with my 13 year old son out of town to go shopping at Sam's. What fun!! It was nice to be myself with him. Yes, it was grocery shopping, but we did go eat Mexican, his favorite. We had a great time. I can't believe how we are going through food right now. We only added two more mouths, but Tucker is eating everything. He is eating and growing. We hope the girls are growing right along with him.
In my last post I referred to not serving my kids. I give my life to my kids. I don't wait on them, but am very willing to help them, if needed. We have very strict rules about asking for things before getting them. We have always had rules about getting food and drinks at our house. They had gotten more relaxed but when the girls came, they became really strict again. We have very strict boundaries. All of the kids ask before getting anything to eat or drink, watching TV, playing video games etc. I was talking about someone saying they want milk while we are eating and them expecting me to stop and go get it. They aren't babies. I realize they "need" to go through many phases of growth and trust with us but I don't feel after three weeks when we have taught them where things are and that we always have food and drinks available, that I should always wait on them.
We have had a pretty few rough days but we are still moving forward. They tested Elliott today and one girl received the joy of picking up all of the pine cones because she had been moping around and chose not to play. He told her he would give her something to do, therefore we have no more pine cones in our yard.
Tonight my husband and I went on a date. It is the first we have had since the girls came. It was much needed!! My in-laws are here and offered to keep the kids. We went to dinner and to Walmart. (The only thing to do in our town.) His mom said to stay gone a long time. We were gone about three hours. It was great!! We were able to catch up on the stories for the past few days. We both had incidences with the kids that we hadn't had time to tell the other.
It was very nice when we returned home. Even after the rough past few days, the kids were all very glad to see us. Happy, genuine smiles!! I good way to end the day.
oh pine cone picking sounds like a great task. We pick stones here, same thing though. It is so great that the 2 of you got out on your own!
ReplyDeleteI did not mean anything bad with my last comment, sorry if it sounded accusatory. I totally hear you on expecting them to be self serving in that way.
have a good weekend.
J., I knew you didn't mean anything bad in your comment. I am sorry too. I thought if you misunderstood, I need to clarify. I feel boundaries are VERY important, especially for my girls. I wanted to clarify that for others that read my blog. I appreciate your post very much. I am writing this for myself as much as anything, but sometimes I wonder if anyone reads it. I am always gladd for posts!!
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