My heart is really sad tonight. It is breaking for these girls.
One girl admitted to picking fights with Morgan. She realizes she is doing it. She was very mad and pouting on the couch today. The reason was because she was mad because the other two girls walked away and didn't fight with her. I have told them repeatedly to walk away. They were so proud they did. The sister was not happy with them. SHE DIDN'T GAIN CONTROL OF THEM and so she was MAD!! We had a nice long discussion just as we had friends coming over for dinner with their eight children. I had to let them in and go handle the problem. I am praying for God to reveal the root issue for this action. We told her we want to replace this need she has with something better, spirit filled. So sad.
One girl came to me tonight asking about when we were going to change the sheets on their beds. I told her I didn't know. Honestly, I haven't had time this week and haven't even thought about it. I asked her why and she said no reason. I remembered that she was in different clothes this morning and it all came together for me. I asked her again and she finally told me. She had a dream that she was in the bathroom and wet the bed. I asked why she hadn't told me and she said she was punished in her previous home. MY HEART BROKE!! I asked where the clothes are because I had them bring all of the dirty laundry to me today and I didn't notice any. She went and got them and gave them to me. I have no idea where she had hidden them. I reassured her that it is okay and that it happens to others, not just her. I have probably told her five times that she isn't in trouble, but please tell us next time so we can get the we sheets off the bed. So sad.
My heart is breaking for these girls tonight. As we walk this journey with God, I am learning more and more about me and each of my family members. I am so blessed!!! I am honored to be their mother of five precious children.
It is heartbreaking the defense mechanisms they acquire along their painful journey. So glad they have your family to help them work through their difficult times and reach their full potential.
ReplyDeleteit is a long journey but a rewarding one once the healing starts to be obvious.
ReplyDeleteSounds like they are getting along just like sisters! =) They are so lucky to have such a loving mom. I would love to know how you got matched with them and how many placements you have had? We haven't gotten matched yet but hope to soon. I am so happy for your blog.
ReplyDeleteWe were matched through DHR. This is our only placement. We were considered for another sibling group and another boy before. The sibling group was placed with another family because they had "experience". The other boy was placed in his current county. We continued to be the "squeeky wheel". I stayed in contact with our state APAC worker regularly. We are very blessed to have gotten the placement we did. They were never posted on the state website. The key is to get your homestudy with a good state worker. Our state worker was actually on the deciding committee for the five, was then the worker for the boy and then ultimately matched us with the girls. Please feel free to email me with any other questions.
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